Why are we doomed to loneliness and why it should not frighten us

It is assumed that a person worthy of respect, never feels alone, unless it is moved to another country or has lost a close relative. In fact, the feeling of loneliness - an integral part of our existence, and there are several reasons.

1. Most often, what we would like to share with others, causes misunderstanding or rejection. Many of our thoughts may seem strange, contradictory, vague or even frightening. So we have to choose between honesty and what is considered acceptable in the society. For obvious reasons, we usually make a choice in favor of the second.

2. Each focuses primarily on himself. In fact, to listen to the other person and put yourself in his place, it takes a lot of energy. So do not blame others if during the conversation they can not pay you as much attention as their problems.

3. It is highly unlikely that we used to be, thinking for sure find a man just like us. We crave harmony, but this is not possible, because we are all born in different times, have grown in different conditions, and just arranged differently.

4. In addition, we usually pay more attention to the physical side of the relationship. And often it turns out that we spend life with the person with whom we have nothing to talk about.

Nobody knew me really, and I do not understand the other; people do not understand each other.

Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

Despite all this, loneliness does not frighten us and cause discomfort. A sense of remoteness from each other does not mean that everything in life goes wrong. You just need to take it for granted. Then we note the pros and loneliness.

• Alone, we can develop their creativity. All creative aspirations stem from a feeling that others never really does not understand us, and hope that someone even many years later or on another side of the world yet realizes.
• Loneliness deepens our character, makes you think about yourself and about the world. This, in turn, helps us to establish a closer relationship with really important for us human beings.
• Being alone is almost always preferable to pretend and to tolerate the conventions of society.