How to behave if the marriage on the verge of collapse

In such a situation it is easy to make the mistake of succumbing to the desire to prove his innocence, irritated and offended.

1. Do not blame the partner for all problems

Naturally I want to partner saw his mistakes and admitted his guilt. But try to suppress the urge to blame him for all the troubles. Instead, ask questions. Listen to learn something, and talk to express themselves. Tell us what you feel in this situation, and ask that your significant other is experiencing. This will strengthen the sense of intimacy. Try to stay calm and focus on what more can be corrected.

2. Do not criticize and do not insult partner

When we feel that we can not reach out to partner and affect his decision, we often begin to speak sharp provocative words, just to prolong the dispute and keep his attention. But this will only aggravate the already tense situation. Remind yourself that you can not control the behavior of the partner, and try to come to terms with it.

Take a deep breath. Before you speak, think about what you want to express. Then the desire to say something insulting and humiliating weakened.

3. Refrain from dominating behavior and jealousy

If your partner is moving away, it is natural that you want to hold him back, but do not try to control his every move. Do not check who is calling and he says, do not break personal boundaries. From this especially hard to stay in a relationship where one partner has changed. But believe me, this behavior only further alienate man.

Everyone wants a loved one was left of their own accord, not under pressure or a sense of duty.

4. Try to defuse the situation

Many couples on the verge of divorce are constantly in an incredibly tense emotional state, which is exhausting physically and mentally. Both sides are ready to defend themselves at the slightest provocation. It seems that the body is stuck in a state of "fight or flight". Communicate with the impossible.

In this state, it is important to lighten the mood a bit. Not to erect walls around themselves more when between you and your partner are already so many obstacles. Do not forget to laugh and relieve stress.

5. Do not cut yourself off emotionally

In a situation of uncertainty want to protect themselves, to shut down. But, hiding their emotions and refusing to share experiences, you can not solve the problem. A restraining his feelings only lead to nervous breakdowns or depression in future.

When your partner says something insulting, not to close and not go in himself, and say: "Your words hurt me." Just express what you feel, not expecting it to change something.

Even following all the advice and all doing the "right" is not always possible to influence the situation. The main thing is what you need to remember when a relationship on the verge of collapse - this is what you can not control the behavior of the partner. But you can influence your own. If you choose to be kind, honest, sincere, will try to behave as an emotionally mature person, a chance to save the relationship will be more.

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