8 ways to finish an office romance and preserve the dignity of
Relations / / December 19, 2019
So, you have completed an office romance. You have thrown out all reminders removed together photos from social networks, complained to friends and girlfriends. Work with once close friend hard. There are several ways to survive office romance final, even if the former partner is sitting at the next table.
Any the end of the relationship strikes, but the completion of the novel in the office - a completely different situation. Unfortunately, it does not matter, you are parted by mutual decision, or someone out of the game unilaterally. But that is no reason to change careers. Let's see what can be done to mitigate the effects of separation.
1. Agree on a neutral behavior
We hope that you agree with your partner initially not mix work and personal issues. If not, then now is the time to do so. Do not let the difficulties of relationships ruin the reputation of or affect the results.
Need to dot all the i's and decide how you will communicate.
At work is permitted only business communication, and adhere to this principle in the first place will have to yourself.
Even if you have left your friends and have maintained good relations for the transfer of their workflow. Remember, between you all over. And though at first do not bother each other.
Only the conversation must be personal, and no explanation of the relationship of collectivization in the corridor.
2. professional etiquette
Treat your former partner in the same way as other colleagues, even if it seems impossible. Communicate politely (especially if you broke up recently) and only on work items. No stinging remarks, even at the limit of audibility. Sometimes it's hard to bite his tongue in time, but will have from an altercation in the office no one better not be.
Harder to stay within corporate ethics, if the former partner provokes scandal and behaves like a resentful student after an unsuccessful party. Trite, but recipes but completely ignoring attacks on your side, do not exist.
3. no gossip
After the collapse of the relationship may be tempted to wash the former or the former bones with everyone who is willing to listen. This is generally the first item in the list "What to do after the break." Only at the stage of the novel other conditions.
No office gossip, do not talk with colleagues about the details of your separation (even if you will be tortured, silent as a partisan).
If the inner voice demands revenge and tells you how to spoil the reputation of a partner, you will not achieve anything, just put himself in a bad light.
Do not add fuel to the fire, otherwise your story will turn into an office bike that will tell everyone. "And here we have one couple broke up in the marketing department, and then to the report were taaaaaakie pictures ..."
4. no vengeance
Speaking of photos, the secrets and compromising. Leave such passion writers TV series and do not turn the office into a film set of a soap opera.
If you break up, it's not a reason to delay the report, the wrong time to transmit documents or disrupt the meeting with the client to the former partner. Between you could be anything. But, if your organization someone starts to work effectively, ultimately affecting all employees due to loss of income and additional costs.
At work, you are swimming in the same boat, so that hostility discard as unnecessary ballast.
5. Reduce your communication
So, you have accepted the fact that his hurt pride need to calm down, negative emotions - mute and continue to work with this person. It is not intended to communicate all of 40 hours.
As long as the wound is still fresh, use the old tactics of avoidance. Because of the former should not miss meetings and corporate eventsBut there is always the possibility to adjust the work schedule so as to cross at a minimum.
By the way, the visit to the corporate. For you 100% sober. It is not discussed. If you have recently completed a novel, do not play with the alcohol in the presence of colleagues. On this subject even little jokes, is so bad consequences have a glass of wine on a working party with the former.
Come to work a little earlier, so as not to go down the hall to the oppressive silence. Do not run into the dining room when it's dinner time former partner, or go to dinner with someone else.
If emotions are very strong and you can not work in peace, take holiday a couple of weeks, vyplesnite all negative and keep it as far away from the desk chair.
6. Direct the energy in a peaceful course
At some point, the parting will occupy all of your thoughts. It's ok, we're all human. But enough to hammer his head so that the former partner was about a new date. All the energy from unnecessary emotions direct the work.
It is not always easy, but try to leave emotions out of the office door. You just need to work the required hours. Focus on the work distract you from mental agony. And at the same time you show the boss how to know how to work well. The award definitely a little to sweeten the pill.
7. Do not talk about yourself
Do not talk about his personal life. You will sooner or later begin a new relationship.
Even if enough time has passed and parting already become the past, do not wake the insults and do not explain on speakerphone that you are going on vacation with a new passion.
Not give rise to gossip and do not try to demonstrate to spite his former partner unearthly happiness.
If you ask about the details, it is better to interrupt a conversation or to maintain it. Still, private should remain private.
8. Memorize your experience
In the event of office romances is not surprising or bad. We spend too much time at work, and many of my colleagues are opened with attractive sides.
But, while you're recovering from a failed relationship, to assess the implications. It costs this novel subsequent difficulties? Maybe, maybe not. Whatever you decide, consider all the pros and cons. Especially if you are going to dive into a new relationship in the workplace.