14 reasons to rejoice, if a woman earns more than the man

In the world there are at least a million texts on the theme "What if the woman earns more than the man." And in each of them in different languages ​​are given advice on how to be, not to hurt these fragile male ego.

Such articles are always focused on women who seem to be ashamed of the fact that their labor demand that their work - not less serious than that of men, and they go from the role of "jewelry" in the team and with her husband to the status of a valuable employee.

The heroine of this text, in addition to the work to be more:

• to pretend that its success - a coincidence not to offend the partner;
• wipe out his guilt, tripling its efforts to maintain a family life, to show that it is sufficiently served by the family, does not act to the detriment of her;
• throw all forces to strengthen the ego husband in areas that do not relate to money;
• inspire spouse to earn more and "not sit on the neck" (as an option - "not to become his mom");
• eventually quit a high-paying job, because you have to stick to gender roles.

High wages women have always served as a problem, although there is no problem. The answer to the question "What if the wife earns more than her husband?" One: to rejoice. And the reasons for this are many.

Why it's good for a man

1. Next to you is very intelligent and purposeful woman

Employers prefer to hire menEmployers were less likely to pay attention to the marital status of applicants, but gender preferences wereSo women are forced to accept lowerCompeting with men for jobs, women agree to pay below the market salary.

So if your wife had a good position with high salary, it indicates that it really steep specialist - judging by the statistics, possibly steeper competition-men qualify for this same position.

2. Wife next to you not because of money

Obviously, if the wife herself can provide for themselves, that with you it is not because of the fact that without you will die of hunger. Do not hurry to rejoice, perhaps your marriage reinforce harmful stereotypes like "let inferior, but my" or "someone now I want, I do not 18". Or are you really a good man, it is often the case.

3. If you lose your job, the world will not collapse

When money brings in the family someone one, the economic well-being of its unstable. If you lose your job, some time will be spent on the search for a new place. A disablement lead to long problems with finances, especially in the absence of insurance.

If both earn good money, force majeure will worsen the financial situation in the family, but will not lead to disaster.

4. You do not have to bear responsibility for everything

Be the sole earner in the family - stress as job loss or injury leave home without money, not only you. High salary wife allows to redistribute the weight from the shoulders of the two by four, and so it becomes a lot easier.

5. You have more opportunities for self-realization

Equal rights entail and equal duties. It is normal that when a man provides a family, and a woman for a while "looking for himself", for example, runs courses and workshops. It works both ways.

However, such is not always possible because of the gender gap in earnings: your paycheck family can live, and on the income of his wife - not very. If your woman gets more than you, there is no such obstacles, Be improvedMuch as anything.

6. You also give expensive gifts

Men often resent that give your smartphone, and in return receive suspended socks. And it misses the fact that women often do not where to save money to buy gadgets response. Hardly you will feel uschemlonnym finding under the tree PlayStation instead of shaving gel.

7. Do you have an incentive to develop and a reason for pride

When talking about salaries it inevitably comes to competition and the primacy of the pair. Maybe it is time to stop taking family life as a competition? From the fact that you are constantly pulling the blanket over himself and would like your opinion was decisive, even if it is wrong, no one wins.

When someone wins a number of improved and new victories, this is a great incentive to evolve too, to grow together. In the end, the fruits of your joint work are beneficial to both of you, and increasing family budget usually happy.

If you want at any cost to suppress the Lady, perhaps you'd better not go to the registrar and to the psychologist.

In addition, large wife income is not necessarily hide in shame, it is possible and to show off. Perhaps the phrase "the wife earns more than I do" in the company of men, and cause ridicule. Just add to it, "and more of you," and everything will change. Who is there now on the horse?

Why it's good for women

1. You definitely very clever and purposeful woman

Path to paid work for women is still not as simple as it seems. Despite reports full of optimism that Russia - the leadernot weak floor in the number of female managers, the reality is a bit different, as on paper.

Statistics is significantly improved due to the chief accountants. Position is considered typically female while "firing": accountant may fall under criminal charges and to answer the personal property of the company's questionable activities, even if you do not know about it or could not affect the happening.

Add to the list of principals, heads of kindergartens and boss PR-department, and a list of the top managers of women get really extensive. However, when it comes to profitable areas, they are very happy there. For example, 52%Booking.com research reveals gender bias in the tech industry is not just limited to IT and engineering, Chairwoman of women in IT face gender bias (statistics are not Russian, and there is no reason to believe that in Russia all the better - on the contrary).

In short, if you You earn muchYou are very cool, it is a reason for pride, not shame.

2. Easier for you to ensure the safety of themselves and their children

Economic violence - a frequent way to control the woman and one of the tools abyuzera. He will try to persuade his wife to leave work or change it to a low-paid, under various pretexts - from taking care of her until the persuasion that her high salary humiliates his manhood. As a result, the victim is in a situation where she has absolutely no means of livelihood, it becomes dependent.

Uncommon companion here - reproductive violence when abyuzer forcing his wife to have a baby. In this case, the woman is already responsible for two or more lives, it can not escape and is forced to endure any attitude to it up to physical violence. With high-income easier for you to get away from the person who makes your life miserable.

3. You do not need to ask for money "on pantyhose"

The unbridled fantasies of patriarchal men showered their bills keeper of the hearth, and they spend their non-stop on their needs. The harsh reality is not obtained at each meet a millionaire who does not think of money. Most men (and especially women) earning a very modestAverage monthly nominal and real wages of employees of organizations.

As a result, the income of two working adults is not always enough to ensure normal existence family. In this scenario, unnecessary spending really necessary to justify, even if you gets a bill from her purse.

High income allows more freely dispose of money and not feel remorse for every penny.

4. The world will not collapse if the husband loses his job

If the spouse would be fired, you simply continue to live peacefully next: you will be on what to buy products than to pay utility services and that fill the car. This state of affairs will save up to you a lot of nerve cells.

5. In the case of divorce or death of a spouse, you will not be left on the street

Low income or lack of it in a difficult situation can lead to great difficulties. If you earn well, you will be able to provide for themselves and children with housing, food, clothing. Money will help you create a safe space in which live through emotional distress (but without him in such situations does not do) much easier.

6. You may qualify for a higher quality of life

The joke about the fact that "if the four people in the family refrigerator is three cakes, the mother is not exactly want sweet" is not a joke. Women often save on yourself, if you can spend money on children and husband. Stable high income allows more direct finance to health, quality food, massages and a beautician. As a result, you feel relaxed, more energetic and happy.

7. You are applying a good example to your children

One may try to persuade the children to study hard in order to achieve more. But when they see my mother's diploma and the size of her salary, they concluded. Smart, ambitious mother - a great example of how and dad.

What does it mean

If one of the spouses earns a lot, it is in any case well, and no matter what it is sex. Maybe not in money happiness, but they help to create a safe space and improve the quality of life for the whole family.

If you see a problem in the fact that a woman earns more than the man, then snag does not wages. This can be:

1. Inconsistency gender roles

Yes, in the head, two and two are four, emerges that the man - the breadwinner and the woman - the keeper of the hearth. But gender roles - a social construct. In addition, if handled in the past, while the men hunted mammoth, women engaged in gathering. Guess who is more likely to come home with the booty?

2. The feeling of injustice

With the idea that the wife earns more than her husband, is not easy to accept because of the stereotype that women can not work as efficiently as a man. It seems that it takes someone's place (perhaps yours), got to the position is not clear in what way and does nothing, only the salary received.

But this is not true. In the apparatus male and female brain There were no significant differences. Moreover, scientists have refuted the main argument of men who do not want to see women in leadership roles: hormone fluctuations during the menstrual cycle does not affectLack of Associations between Female Hormone Levels and Visuospatial Working Memory, Divided Attention and Cognitive Bias across Two Consecutive Menstrual Cycles on cognitive performance. Therefore, nothing prevents the ladies cope with job responsibilities and manage the team effectively.

3. Loss of control levers

Money means power. Not all have the strength and talents to influence something global, so they try to declare a tyranny within the family, or at least get the illusion of control. At this point you can add and suspicion in the competition in an attempt to take away the reins.

4. Failed expectations

Her husband do not care how much earns wife, but he expects that it will fully serve it at home. Wife do not care how much her husband earns, but it works the same 8 hours and expects that it will take over half of the domestic duties. He accuses her of careerism, she had that from him no good. Quarreling It does not stop, but moreover salary here.

Therefore, if you are seriously concerned about the size of women's wages and rejoice not, that question should be solved by a psychologist.