10 qualities important for a relationship

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Listening skills

Talk able and like almost everything, but listen - units. If you've ever talked with a man, you know what I mean.

When a person does not wait for their turn to speak, during that time, as you say you are not going over in my head these cases that fit the theme.

The conversation can be maintained even without listening, it is not difficult - nod, say "uh-huh" and do not look into the smartphone. But listen - it's an art, but it is always felt and appreciated. With such people really want to talk.

How to develop the ability to listen?Try to concentrate on what the other person says and not be distracted by your thoughts. Interested in what he says, and if does not work - then why even talk?

The ability to be spontaneous

Some people like the full spontaneity in action, others prefer the consistency and reliability. But in any case, without a bit of spontaneity, imagination and unexpected acts "in the flow" will be bored.

Just like that, for no reason, suggest go to a restaurant (especially if it does not flower and candy on a weekday period, and more or less stable and almost family life), just to sing when a good mood, to offer rehearse some dance or take a ride on the weekends in the country, to find an incredibly beautiful place.

Spontaneity does not allow the relationship to become a part of everyday routine, it makes them interesting and colorful, provides a lot of good memories.

How to develop your spontaneity?Often listen to yourself what it is you want. While it does not matter, will appreciate your impulses or not, as long as there were any desire.

Do something good

No matter what comes to your skill - fun to drive, a virtuoso to play the guitar or speak fluently in three languages. People always admire someone else's skills, whatever it may concern.

How to learn? Just find yourself a favorite business and hone skills to perfection. By the way, if you have no relationship at this time, it will help them to have - as soon as you dive in favorite business and forget about the desire to have a relationship, they magically appear in your life.

Be self-sufficient and content,

People who are happy with what they have, are more attractive than those who constantly complain and suffer from the fact that it something is missing. If you are happy with your appearance, you look much more attractive than if you consider yourself a fat freak.

If you are satisfied with their work, no one will call you a loser. And the rogue is perfectly described in the lurke - it is not those who have a small salary, and people who feel that they are constantly short of money.

How to learn to be content with what we have?Yes, it's not easy, but possible. For starters, you can stop comparing yourself to othersAnd then find that is going well in your life and be grateful for it.

Absence of unhealthy "pens"

If you follow the figure and try to eat more vegetables - it's fine, but if the removal of the brain pizzeria staff, demanding to make for you a pizza without dough - is quite another.

This applies to all of your principles and interests - in all it is necessary to know when to stop, and morbid attachment to some kind of behavior does not please anyone.

How to get rid of too strong attachments?First you have to understand in general, whether they are from you. And for this purpose ask the best of friends and relatives - though honestly say what they think about it. Most likely, they even told you about this before, but you're not paying attention.

be present

One can endlessly invent itself false images, hide behind them and even get used to them, but people always feel false and appreciate the true personality.

This does not mean that you will be as simple as two rubles. This means that you do not hide their feelings, and will not "falsify them." You open smile and laugh, Do not hesitate his impulses, desires and passions.

How to become real?Realize that your image is a mask (sometimes it's not easy), to understand why you put her and reconsider attitude.

The ability to compromise

The ability to compromise, and the main thing - the desire to look for it, it is a sign that a person is ready for a long and happy relationship.

If you're not looking for a compromise, and force the partner to obeying you, then you do not respect it, and sooner or later he would get tired of it.

If on the contrary, always submit and give in, you get tired of - a long period of silence ended with an explosion and you will break the relationship.

What to do?Always put yourself in the other person. For example, you work at home after work and would like to take a walk to stretch your muscles, go skating or do other active sports.

And your spouse all day on their feet, and he or she does not want more activity, and in the evening. Rather than make a fuss and try to imagine yourself in the place of your loved one - you would want somewhere to get out after a day of activity?

As soon as you put yourself in the other person will be able to settle down and find a compromise.

Care

Almost all people love when they are cared for (of course, without fanaticism). This is an opportunity without a word to say "I love you"" You do not care about, or indifferent. "

Distract, when you see that a person is sad or ask what happened and listen to all the problems. If a person is ill, take care of it as it would make the parents. Even just to buy a favorite treat, just like that, when you have not asked for it.

How to learn to care for others? If you are accustomed to think only of themselves, will not be easy to start taking care of others. But if you fondly think of the other person, it will not be so difficult to think of something to help him, and what a surprise.

Sense of humor

Cheerful people who love everything positive they charge, I would like to stay close to them. In general, the sense of humor is almost at all, but it often does not match - funny things seem to be different. But it depends on education, environment and other factors.

In any case, a man who often smiles than frowns and do not mind a good laugh, much nicer to chat.

How to develop a sense of humor?Nothing. It is you already have, maybe you're just shy enough to joke with friends or people think its weird sense of humor. It is not so important - if you do not hesitate to be yourself, people accept you for who you are.

To be strong

It is appreciated not only in men but also in women. Nobody wants to see next to a weakling who can not cope with their problems, not so much help and support in difficult situations.

Inner strength, the ability to solve their problems, not jumping up on people, the ability to support and help - it is much more valuable than good looks.

How to develop the inner strength?It's a long way to self-improvement, when you decide to no longer complain about the hardships and perceive their problems as exciting quests to be executed.

Awareness of their fears and deal with them, overcome themselves in achieving goals and much more. Surely every one of you has his own definition of a "strong man", here's to him and seek.

What do you most value in people - looks or some inner quality? If the latter, then what?