11 signs that it is time to end a friendship
Relations / / December 19, 2019
1. Friendship turned into a competition
To share their achievements and enjoy the success of each other normally. But traditional Friday sittings should not turn into a vanity fair. If you prepare for the next meeting a short list of their accomplishments, it is possible that something went wrong. In case of failure, each must support, rather than to assert themselves at your expense. Otherwise, it will negatively affect your self-esteem and attitude, and is not that you want?
2. Each jealous of you
Position "Either I or he" looks more or less adequately in the middle group of kindergarten. When and school days are long gone, like ultimatums, jealousy and attempts to control the look at least strange. You have the right to enter into love and friendship on the side, and if the friend does not understand, it is safer to stop communicating.
3. All your party ends hangover
Perhaps you have a friend with whom you can have fun as it should, make a raid on bars, skip a drink. But if each of your meeting is accompanied by alcoholic libations, and in the morning youYou feel sick from drinking the day before and ashamed to remember last night, this is an alarming bell.
Friends must have common interests, but alcohol can not be the sole catalyst relations. Here we are talking already about other dependencies. In addition, the communication should charge you vigor, and not to lay at night in bed with a headache and a wet towel on his forehead.
4. You are forced to play in the silences
Friendly and loving relationships are good and productive, as are full-fledged partnership. In this case you roughly equal proportions are giving and getting, and it's not just about material things. If all the conversation, the sides most of the time talking about what is interesting to him, and you just nod and do not have time insert words, it is normally only in one case: at your door hangs a sign "psychologist" and the source you are not a friend, client.
5. You share only bad news
Friendship, like marriage, is designed for what you together in sorrow and in joy. When you begin to pour on each other only negative, reserving some good news for someone else, these relationships do not work quite fine. Perhaps you are afraid to share happy moments, because this will be followed criticism, Depreciation, an attempt to competition. And it is very clear hint that it is time to put an end the friendship.
6. Your friend is a lot of gossip
Between mutual friends discussing and conviction is a deep pit. If one likes to wash someone bones, talk about unpleasant secrets to find non-existent faults, it is worth considering, and if you can trust him. Is a risk that your secrets and disperse around the city, and in a distorted form.
7. Anticipation meeting scares, but not happy
You are no longer included gatherings with a friend in his plans, and the thought of a chance encounter more frightening than happy. And it's not just a wake-up call, a warning siren that alerts to evacuate from this friendship. The fact that you have nothing else binds suggests a reluctance to spend time together: to the party you be sure to invite someone to the third-fourth, so they were a buffer between you and fill the awkward a pause in the conversation.
8. Each requires you to actions that cause you damage
Folklore consists of thousands of proverbs and songs about true friendship, and especially assistance, which is determined by the validity of the relationship. Help out a friend in difficult times is normal, but there are markers that will help identify that person turns out to other parasites that are only interested in your services.
For example, if a person wants you to get up early to help him light a battery on the machine, it's okay. If it requires the same at the time when you have an important meeting at work, and then take offense that you did not help, it is worth considering.
9. A friend always pushes its position
You probably have not only common interests, but also different. For example, you love Mexican food, one - the Japanese. But instead of alternate restaurants you over and over again with longing eat sushi and rolls, and your friend at the same time refuses to even look at the guacamole. During the gatherings you listen only to jazz, though they like rock, look Iñárritu masterpieces, though happy to be revised "Scary Movie." A game with only one goal should stop, friendship works on the principle of reciprocity.
10. You are afraid to be vulnerable next to each other
Have you been talking to, a lot about each other know, got together in funny and embarrassing situation, but now you uncomfortable sharing with a friend. Especially if we are talking about important things. Perhaps one day he will not support, was being sarcastic or rude. In any case, even if one behaved perfectly, but you do not want to share the secret with him, a hint that your paths begin to diverge.
11. After meeting with a friend you do not feel encouraged by, and devastated
In a relationship there is everyone, but in general they are likely to have to motivate and support you. If the friendship turned to overcome and you hold on to it just because of the nostalgic feelings, it's time with this tie.