Why do we look at the world of self-centered

Almost always, it seems to us that our contribution to the common cause far more than any other. Imagine the situation: you have worked on the project with colleagues and literally dragged by the whole team. The fact that the project was a success at all - only your merit. Of course, you think that every member of the team feels the same. But at the meeting, you can hear something else.

Or take a family life. You wash the dishes, clean the house, go shopping, and your partner wanted to spit on domestic duties. Do you think it's obvious. But during an argument you hearEgocentric BiasThat is, he does everything for the sake of the family, and you damn selfish. Who of you is right? Most likely, both of you. Because each of you is subject to the natural error of thinking - the effect of self-centredness.

We are tied to their perception

Self-centeredness - is the inability of a person to perceive another's point of view. Do not confuse it with the selfishness. Egomaniac is not aware that other people see the world in their own way, have their own feelings and opinions. Egoist understands this, but he does not care. Egocentrism - a natural phenomenon for children 8-10 years old, but most of it eventually passes.

But it remains egocentric distortion - one of the main pitfalls of thinking. Namely, it encourages us to ignore the views of others, relying only on their perception. As a result, we believeProjecting my envy onto you: Neurocognitive mechanisms of an offline emotional egocentricity biasWhat others think and feel the same way and we want the same as us.

Due to the effect of self-centeredness, we ascribe to ourselves more merit in achieving a common goal.

He makes us believe that the situation is in our favor - the fairThe neural signatures of egocentric bias in normative decision-making. Even if you consider it wrong when it comes to others. For example, when you need to share profits or praise, we feel that we deserve betterEffects of Interactional Justice on Egocentric Bias in Resource Allocation Decisions others. And when share the blame or punishment, on the contrary, lessSystematic error in behavioral reports of dyadic interaction: Egocentric bias and content effects others. This cognitive bias effect even on ethical judgments. Because of him, we think that our selfish actions justifiedEgocentric Ethics.

This is due to the cognitive system device

In fact, we just treat imperfectlyEgocentric bias across mental and non-mental representations in the Sandbox Task information. Our cognitive system is based on heuristics - simplified rules for decision-making and assessment of the facts. They save the brain resources and our time, but sometimes lead to errors.

Baboutmost of the time we look at the world from their perspective. We appreciate and remember the events, on the basis of it. And even realizing that you need to look at the situation through the eyes of another person, we cling to their own way of seeing things. And it does not allow to adequately assessThe "false consensus effect": An egocentric bias in social perception and attribution processes position.

Faster and easier to assume that other people are thinking about the same as we are. But this leads to erroneous judgments.

Another reason relates to a memory deviceEgocentric biases in availability and attribution. Marshall brainA Bias That Puts Self at Center of Everything memories around us. And if you were asked to list the event in the last five years, you will remember that it was linked to you personally. This happens because your own present is always in the spotlight.

Also influenced by additional factors: ageEmotional Egocentricity Bias Across the Life-Span and knowledge of languagesReasoning about other people's beliefs: Bilinguals have an advantage. Teenagers and elderly people are affected to more self-centered people aged 18 to 60 years. And those who speak two languages, less than the people who own a.

With this trap of thinking you can fight

Remember that it is. Get rid of it is not fully succeed, but you can reduce its impact by using several methods.

Increase samodistantsiyu

Think about a situation in which you find yourself without the pronoun I. Ask not "What should I do?" And "What should you do?" Or "What is necessary to make Tanya?". This will help to move away from itself and to assess the situation more objectively.

Put yourself in someone else's place

Imagine the point of view of another person or the overall view from the side. For example, if you had an argument with a friend, try to look at it through the eyes of the situation and understand what he is feeling.

Consider the arguments that contradict your position.

This will reduce theTransparency Illusions in Performance Appraisals obsession with itself, and with it, and the effect of self-centredness. Let's say you practice any political position. What are some reasons why people support opposing views. So you will understand them better and to re-evaluate their beliefs.

Connect self

It's enough to sit in front of the mirror when taking a decision. The experiments confirmedOvercoming Egocentric Bias in Perceived Fairness Through Self-AwarenessThat in this case, people become less self-centered. Also, try to slow down the process of discussion and ask others feedback. It helps not to focus on their own point of view.

And accept the fact that people are different. Others may not like what you like. They have their opinion, due to their experience and personal characteristics. They are not "wrong", and do not lie to you, they are just different.