How to survive in school: Tips pupils and their parents
Forming / / December 19, 2019
Learn how to communicate with teachers, to fend off school bullies and treat a bad evaluation.
How to treat a bad evaluation
A bad evaluation does not mean that the child is not able to assimilate the basic knowledge and will stick to retirement announcement. They are just a formality. More often than not unexpected threes and twos indicate the presence of other problems. Perhaps, the child quickly grasps everything and in the classroom, instead of listening to the teacher, do their own thing. It happens also that assessment underestimates artificially. In this case, parents should take action: to go to school, talk with the teacher and, if necessary, with the director.
It is important not to blame the kid for a bad evaluation, and try with him to find out what he got himself into difficulties. Perhaps not enough qualified teacher explains the subject or simply the child does not belong to his soul.
Eugene Vorobiev, Director General of the Family Club "MalyshMaPy" psychologist.
How to communicate with the teacher, who does not like you
The reasons for the lack of love can be different, but do not forget, the teacher is also a man. If they wanted to abide by professional ethics, he can have pets and "nelyubimchiki". Perhaps bad teacher refers to the child because of the lame discipline and the level of knowledge. In this case, will have to take up the books. If too picky teacher, the parents have to solve the problem. Remember that children who get along with their parents rarely get into conflicts with other adults.
Eugene Vorobiev, Director General of the Family Club "MalyshMaPy" psychologist.Help your child prepare for the perfect lesson that teaches "harmful" teacher, and perhaps the situation will change radically. Usually what happens.
How to give the date (and whether)
Pay school bullies in the same coin - a bad strategy. After receiving a couple of bumps and bruises in a fight, the child risks losing credibility in the eyes of the remnants of their classmates. researchA multi-informant longitudinal study on the relationship between aggression, peer victimization, and dating status in adolescence show that love to fights It reduces the popularity of boys among girls, and vice versa. Snitch and revenge - also a bad idea. Punish enemies is possible only through peaceful means. For example, to improve their performance.
Eugene Vorobiev, Director General of the Family Club "MalyshMaPy" psychologist.The child is important to make it clear that the authority of the school deserves no kicks and jerks, but the level of knowledge. Chicanery and taunts of bullies very easy to ignore. It is important to get like-minded people - those who seek to get as much useful knowledge and skills.
What if the child bullied classmates on
School-baiting may have dolgoiduschie consequences for all participants. researchAdult Psychiatric Outcomes of Bullying and Being Bullied by Peers in Childhood and Adolescence show that the victim and the initiators of school bullying, reaching 19-26 years, more likely to suffer from depression, Anxiety disorder, dissocial personality disorder, take drugs and even attempt suicide.
Parents and teachers need to understand the situation at the first sign of harassment. If you let things take their course against the child may take up arms the whole class, and it will have to transfer to another school.
Eugene Vorobiev, Director General of the Family Club "MalyshMaPy" psychologist.If no one for a long time did not notice that the child is under stress, it does not have time on subjects and classmates, is the use of class meetings and further talks with the pupils and their parents do not will be. The child will remain an outcast among his peers.
How to help a shy child to express themselves
Shy children feelShy Children in the Classroom: From Research to Educational Practice yourself physically unattractive, difficult to give birth friendsThey have low self-esteem and a high level of anxiety. In addition, they seemPerceptions of intelligence in leaderless groups: The dynamic effects of shyness and acquaintance less intelligent and capable than talkative children.
In order to overcome a child's shyness, scientists are advised toHelping young children overcome shyness often talk about the benefits of communication and encourage any attempt to engage in conversation, to meet new people and learn to describe their emotions.
What if the child annoying school and classmates
To begin, find out what causes the irritation. If a child is interested in lessons, it's time to find a new school. If the reason for that conflicts with their classmates or teachers, go and sort it out. If the apparent reason for the hostility there, take the child to a psychologist.
Eugene Vorobiev, Director General of the Family Club "MalyshMaPy" psychologist.Parents should control the situation: for some time to see off and welcome a child from school, see how he communicates with peers, talk with teachers. If the apparent cause of hostility to classmates did not show up, it is necessary to visit a child psychologist.
How to teach a child to solve any conflicts
One way - to master a set of flexible skills. Unlike most of the skills that children receive in school in the classroom, flexible skills have no specialization. They are required everywhere and can help solve many professional and life goals. Here are the main ones:
- Communication skills. This includes the ability to communicate and listen to others, the ability to act adequately to the situation, to regulate conflicts and maintain relationships.
- Systems thinking. This includes the ability to shake down the conflict, critical thinking and decisions, The ability to collect information from various sources and find the best option.
- Self-control. This ability to control impulses and emotions that distinguish them, to direct attention to behave with dignity in any situation.
- Motivation. This includes the ability to motivate yourself to understand the difference between the motivation of different people.
- Persistence and psychological adaptation. This ability to adapt to any situation, to cope with stress and life's troubles.
To develop these skills by using specialized literature and in training.
The child must be helped to acquire skills that will be useful both in the school to resolve problems with classmates or teachers, as well as in life. It should be given to the development of flexible skills more attention than attempts to mechanically attach to the child's head textbook.
Varvara Chuikova, executive director of "Future Leaders".
Mastering flexible skills will not only survive in the school, but also to succeed after graduation. researchSocial and emotional skills in childhood and their long-term effects on adult life They show that children who had developed communication skills and emotional intelligence, arranged in well-paid positions with higher probability.
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