How to help a loved one to lose weight

Here it is, the day when the question "How do I look?" Need to either lie or to say, "You're fat / fat."

It's one thing if a close has added a couple of kilos (yes even all five), but did not go beyond the boundaries of a healthy norm, and you basically want to see next to a slender Apollo or even more slender nymph. It's quite another when the extra weight creates real problems with appearance and health. There really need to take some steps. Immediately I say, that in this article I am referring to is a second case: the man himself ran, and the weight of facing unpleasant consequences.

Who needs it

When you said that you need to change, and the man immediately reconsidered meal plan and began to run, nothing to discuss. In the real world people are offended, capricious and seize sadness.

If a person gets fat and do not want to change, then it is not necessary. You want.

That you have to take a firm decision that you want to drag on their backs a friend or loved one to a healthy kilograms. Why is it necessary - the second question, but since you're reading this, the answer is known.

Facing the facts

Explain close, why did you have attended to his figure - the most difficult that can be in this process. When you find the right words, you can assume that half the job done.

Tell the truth. Without the truth one you do not zamotiviruete. But over the wording will have to smash his head. On the one hand, the words should reflect the full extent of a possible catastrophe. On the other - to show your sincere intentions.

Do focus on health and your relationships, rather than on the beauty and aesthetic preferences, in order not to provoke the development of complexes.

But therein lies another trick, especially when you are trying to motivate the girl. Your explanations will be dissected in search of insincerity.

Do you think I'm fat ?!

I think no need to explain why it is impossible to say. It is better to tell, why you care about other people's kilograms, what benefits do you personally get when they melt. Compare the sound phrase for a friend or a friend:

• You look bad.
• I want to have a look at how two beautiful girlfriends. And do not think that goes everywhere with slim plump specifically for the background.

For a partner:

• I was not attracted to your figure.
• I want to live with you a long and happy life and do not want to fight because of the excess weight illnesses distract us from the more interesting activities.
• We are all too good to spoil relations with some kilos.

For parents:

• Absolutely not for a trail.
• I want you to see great-grandchildren.

That is, you need to catch the person find an important reason for not insulting or accusing.

Don'ts:

• Insult. Because that's all you can never do.
• Blame. Because it takes confidence.
• Threatens to break relations. Because the hell kind of relationship.

Just ask what you should do

Magic bullet. Ask how you can help. Do I need your advice, joint trips to the gym, support for jogging? And what do do to the road to slimness was easier? Suddenly, a man has ideas, he just too shy to ask.

Share information

Collect the information that helps to lose weight: What are the services convenient to follow the diet, any training needed losing weight, how fast it is normal to lose weight, how to make plans and to stick to them, which produce motivation. And then to submit everything found destination. Do not forget to dose the flow of information to the person not to get.

Such research should be done to a person does not appear the idea to lose weight with the help of fast diets or miracle cures. We know you, they do not work, but someone may not know.

And yet this work will help you to not wait for instant effect on its own initiative: the word "time for you to lose weight" have no effect on weight loss may take months.

Do not provoke the failure of the diet

If you live together, you take the power into their own hands. Take away from home all dangerous products in general, including sugar stocks. Themselves go only on a healthy diet, that the person was simply no alternative: the fish for a couple of only HLS. You may even have to learn how to cook.

If saving of fat friends, in their presence, you are also on a diet. And do not mention how prepared potatoes with cheese crust as a side dish with pork, even recipes on the wall in the social network does not publish. Yes, no one said that "lose" the other person will be easy.

Help start

Sometimes people start losing weight just shy.

How can such a full yes to the gym? Will still laugh.

On your side will help you to find yourself a good coach and explain the situation to him, that he supported the novice. And then to give a loved one a few lessons from this same coach.

Someone is willing to lose on a bet, if at stake is a significant amount. Argue and put you in a win anyway.

And someone needs more imagination to start. For example, it is possible to invent a condition: if you want to eat the cake, first runs around the block three times. Funny and quite effectively.

Do not control every step

When the coach found out and bought a subscription, do not run to check, whatever the person is engaged. Give the opportunity to work independently and not under your watchful eye. You're not the warden.

Exception - if a close he asks you to attend classes.

Prepare for war

Paradoxically. But many of your common acquaintances, friends or family will criticize you for it is the desire to help a friend or partner and not of the other's weight.

Teach your mantra: I do not know what purpose they serve all these people, but I care about you, because... (see. the point about motivation and self-interest).

Some comrades are not comrades, have quite a hard plug. Or even to stop communicating. Because it is difficult to imagine that a person is advised to throw a healthy lifestyle of good intentions.

Never put yourself in an example

If you are willing to utter the phrase that begins with "but I" better shut up. You are not an example to follow, and caring person. And Do not pull close to their "star" level, and want to help him.

Your opinion about excess weight and so can injure a person, and if you show that you feel better, you just will not listen.

Praise for each step

Especially rejoice when a friend or loved one will look better than you. And get ready for what will have to pay more attention to, and their way of life to match.