As once and for all to engage with the problems

All problems are so hated! This stress is the turbulent times that we must go through, and then everything will be fine. But you probably guessed that it was "all right for all" - a mythical, illusory, and will never come, and therefore all life you will periodically pull and pooping problems. Is it possible to somehow get rid of it?

Well, again, the problem... Do they never end? Well, no, definitely someday run out. In the coffin, for example.

However, there is another way to end the problems in life - to stop calling their problems, or, rather, stop feeling them problems.

Excellent true for those who are going to engage with the problems:

You can not make a difference, to change attitudes towards it.

History of problems

Man - lazy bastard who does not like to think. All due to survival: when the brain thinks - consumes energy, and therefore it is necessary to think as little as possible.

Despite the fact that the human brain has a mass of only 1.5% of body weight, it consumes a quarter of the total energy, and most energy is spent at a concentration of attention.

Only the transmission of nerve signals and the elementary operations brain needs 400-500 kcal per day, and if you actively think and concentrate on something that goes in twice as much energy.

When you can at any time go to the store, it's nothing, but when you live in a cave, and at best will eat the day after tomorrow, we need to save energy and think less. Times are tough caves have passed, but the mechanisms remain - your body is doing everything to not think and move as little as possible. Development? What are you speaking about?

Throughout the evolutionary path of people were forced to change and develop severe conditions, ie elementary problems. And now continue.

But, of course, it's the last thing you think when problems occur. It is difficult even to imagine such an attitude: "Oh, I can not pay the mortgage! How great it is necessary to develop ", but if you raise it in himself, at least a little bit, you can get rid of half the stress that haunts us with problems.

First of all, we must realize that give you problems, penetrate and understand their favor.

That give problems?

It may be that some of this will seem familiar to you. Something was happening in your life, something you've seen from friends and acquaintances.

1. Problems with work

How many examples of life when some problems are an excellent start for a career? Fed tightens, stability dulls, and very difficult to tear yourself away from the lucrative feeders to get something more.

But here comes the problem, so that the person becomes sated and not good, something pushes it makes to go further, to develop and get better conditions.

If you have problems with work, maybe it's an occasion to reflect and to change something?

2. Problems with annoying people

Each unbearable people - it's a chance to pump, to find out what assholes there are in this world, and even see in yourself its shortcomings.

There is a psychological "trick" - people particularly annoying is that there is in them, but what they do not notice. Standard log in his eye, and if life pushes you to the people who have simply frozen out, this is a chance to realize their shortcomings and look at them from the side and never do that again.

3. Health problems

When there are problems with health, the body signals that you are wrong to live, it's time to finish so to scoff at yourself and something needs to be changed. Health - is a reflection of life, and, at the same time, a way to see if everything is as it should.

In Tibet, even believe that when the outward signs of the disease, the patient is actually getting better, it's a good sign. I do not know how right the Tibetan doctors, but at least then people understand that something needs to change, not to end his existence before time.

4. Problems with relationships

This is generally a separate conversation. It is said that one has problems with relationships, in fact there is no relationship. As a rule, relations between people are tied "from different universes," as a way to understand other points of view and way of thinking in the world. Therefore, there is clearly not without confrontations, and they have to solve, and at the same time to learn another way of looking at the world.

It turns out that all the problems in the major spheres of life helps a person to move forward, not moldy and not get bored. But then, that does not get to engage with problems forever? Despite the context in which to take them. Disappear as such problems can not but be transformed - completely.

Another look at the problem

What is the problem? In fact, it's just life events, to which we attach a negative connotation, but nobody makes you do it. You can never give them any color, take them just as events or even (exclusive skills) to take them as a gift or as a kick in the pants from the universe: "Come on, move on, you I stuck. "

There is another way to reduce the stress of the problems, but he complicated:

Think about the problem only at the time of its decision

For example, tomorrow you have a serious conversation with customers, you have something ready and you know that will not have time to do anything until tomorrow.

Do you assess whether you really can not do anything to solve the problem. If not, you stop to think about this problem and spend a great evening with family or friends. Maybe tomorrow will be difficult, but now it will not spoil the mood of anyone - twice less stress. People who do that are called "nihilists" and secretly envy them.

Summarizing all the above:

1. No problem, there are events. Their emotional coloring depends on you.
2. Any problem is any guide, helping to develop and pumped.
3. Think about the problem only at the time of its decision.

And how do you feel about the issues?